What’s the general opinion on how long it takes a woman to cum? It takes me so long to cum, not to mention very specific and consistent movement. My boyfriend stops because he doesn’t want to finish yet and switches to fingering me, which is great, but still takes a while. We also always use vibrational support lol.
I can tell his body/hands get tired and we sort of lose steam. I know he’s into it and is super reassuring, but after twenty/thirty minutes of the same exact thing I feel bad and get into my head, which of course is not conducive to finishing.
Any opinions or tips on staying focused?
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> What’s the general opinion on how long it takes a woman to cum?
The average, as I recall, is between 5 and 12 minutes depending on which study you look at, but really, what does it help you to know the general opinion? Everyone’s different and you are you.
I cum super quickly, but only from specific stimulation, and if I don’t cum quickly, I won’t at all, and instead get overstimulated and uncomfortable. Shit’s complicated, yo. I have long given up on trying to make rhyme or reason of it and I feel accepting my body and just doing what it needs is the best way forward.
If you feel it’s just a sensitivity issue, you can also try stronger “vibrational support”, if you want to finish faster.
There’s no real one size fits all for this question. We’re all built different, we all have our own triggers, and unfortunately some ladies require more work for that sort of thing. Thems just the breaks. My only real suggestion is starting with oral so you’re more respective and sensitive.
Something to also consider is to just relax. It could be a psychological block on your end trying to help but inadvertently making it more difficult. Mental stimulation is just as important as physical
The majority of women can’t orgasm from piv only, so good for you. Some take longer and some quicker
Takes me like 30-40 min, haha