My gf and I went to a bar with her friend group. I pissed her off initially in the night and she forgave me pretty quickly and we wrong on to a nightclub. Her friend group is pretty close. I was grinding on her and her friend in that group joined in and got in front of her and it was like a three way grinding line and my gf was grinding on her female friend. The girls in the group typically dance with each other and this same girl joined in on the grinding another girl while her bf was grinding her from the back. He didn’t seem to care but I made a fuss as soon as I saw her friend joining in. She got upset with me and like it took like up until half of the next day for us to make up. She was annoyed with me and felt like I was “controlling her” and was cold to me after that. I don’t know how I should feel about it but she said it was “just a her friend” and like I ended up apologizing to her because I didn’t wanna ruin the night for her. Thoughts on this? Am i wrong to feel weird ab my gf grinding on her female friend while I was grinding my gf?
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Yeah I would say you are in the wrong – for some people grinding (hell, even dancing) is an instant no while in a relationship with someone else, for some people it isn’t. If she is grinding on a chick in front of you, while you are grinding her, she is clearly not trying to hide anything from you. Personally the only thing that matters is honesty – if she was doing this behind your back and then lied about it, that would be very different.
Ultimately you are allowed to set that boundary where she can’t grind on anyone while in a relationship with you, and she is allowed to decline it.
At the end of the day it is literally just dancing, so what is the issue?
Well you got your woman upset before a night out, so that’s not a good start. Sorta foretold how the night was gonna go