I 27M am unable to get my 23F girlfriend to orgasm for more than 2 years now.
I have always been in a long term relationships, and I was able to get my prior partners to reach orgasm (at least sometimes) , I would see the orgasm when her legs would start shaking and the muscles would contract, pretty clear huh?
Moving to current time, my girlfriend has never pleasured herself(AFAIK) , and there have been many romantic moments over the past years, did it on MDMA quite a few times (which felt fucking amazing), fucked literally till the morning in so many poses until she was dry as the desert, I came like 3 times and she – nothing, nada.
Tried massaging her body with oils, looong ass foreplay, going down on her, fingering her for an hour – no thing.
And don’t get me wrong, the sex is great, looks like she’s also enjoying it, but as much as we’d fuck she is unable to reach it.
I tried bringing it up a few times, like “you should play with your clit a bit or something” and every time she just got seemingly offended.
I feel like it might be related to my stamina, so I started exercising more, it just feels bad that I can’t give it to her.
Going out camping today, bought some cialis to assist me with whiskey dick as my girth isn’t that big already and length is average, about 19cm erect ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
So the question is, how the hell to help her reach the O?
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Okay so right away I see the problem. She’s not getting HERSELF off. This is so so so important and the foundation of our partner sex.
If I were you, I would begin by having a conversation with her about it. Ask questions. See where she’s at. What, if anything, is she struggling with?
It has nothing to do with your stamina.
Yet there is no physical reason why a woman cannot have an orgasm, although some women have far greater difficulty than others in reaching a climax.
Reaching orgasm is all about letting go of control, and this concept can be a little frightening for some. Because of this, it is usually better if the woman can learn about her own body and responses without a partner to begin with, so that she can know what it is that gives her pleasure and ultimately brings her to orgasm.
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Doing this alone first is going to be much easier than doing it with you. So I suggest that she forgets about you until she can reliably masturbate to orgasm by herself. Once she can orgasm easily by herself, then she can get you involved.
On your part you are very considerate of her, though you might appreciate this guide;
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Then you will have done all that you can and after that I would advise not bringing the subject up again for quite some time. If you keep asking about it this may bring about a certain amount of performance anxiety and she will certainly not be able to let go. ‘A watched pot never boils’ comes to mind!
Men cannot make me orgasm during sex, it’s all about clitoris stimulation for me so unless I’m touching my self/using a small bullet type vibrator or girl on top facing boy and rubbing the clitoris (which isn’t so much a penetration motion more than a front to back, with a penis inside… some guys I’ve been with have a hard time keeping an erection because they don’t feel pleasure out of that one)
When I was younger I thought it would disappoint my partner too much and I used to fake a lot, finish myself in the bathroom. It took some time and trust with my partner to be comfortable and not feel like a “bad wife”.
She def has to masturbate to figure it out.
Average??? 19cm??? My guy that is massive!