It’s been about 2 years since my abusive boyfriend dumped me and my birth son claiming the baby wasn’t his and denying a paternity test. I placed my baby in an open adoption and he’s thriving. So happy and healthy! The only thing is… I’ve struggled with dating. I’m really afraid of being vulnerable and abandoned like I was when I was 7 months pregnant. I feel so alone and I finally have a boyfriend who loves me to death and would do anything but I tend to flip out at him sometimes out of fear he’s going to hurt me…. I havent dated in 2 years and am just wondering if I need to wait more or if you guys think I should just try and heal with my boyfriend. I’m 21 my boyfriend is 23
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As someone thats dated someone that was abused i think you should be open with him and tell him your concerns. When i was with my ex she made my life hell and constantly fought me and was abusive herself when i only wanted to help her and support her. In the end she broke up with me and continued dating which i feel like she should have focused on herself and heal cause i fear she would get herself into another abusive relationship with her attitude now. Please talk to him and discuss your relationship with him. He may be willing to put a relationship with you on pause and be there to support you till you are ready and mentally in a better place