So I (F19) have been in a relationship with my bf (M18) for over two years. We’ve had sex a bunch before but there’s a lot happening with me moving out of his so he can go to uni, so we haven’t been having sex lately BC we’ve both been busy sorting stuff out. My bf wants to have sex with me tonight, has been wanting to for a while. I’m not against it in any way, I really want it. But for some reason I’m really nervous about it. I don’t know why. He has always treated me so well and I know if I tell him to stop, he’ll stop immediately. Is something wrong with me?
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My guess is you’re missing the safety and assurance of having your previous rhythm or routine with him, so now you’ve got to rely on trust a bit.
Like, maybe your mind has put him in the stranger category since you’re on some level not as immediately familiar with him after a bit of space.
You could ask him if you guys could take it slow tonight, to give yourself time to get “reacquainted,” assuming I wasn’t wrong about stuff. Once you’ve hit your minimum comfort required for safety, you can change the pace.
And you’re not required to do anything. Jumping into anything assuming you’ll like it later sounds sketchy to me. Slow is good and gives you time to respond to yourself.