To be honest… I met a girl at a bar the other week, she went home with me, we are still talking.
After the mile walk she is in my bed and obviously wanting to be there with me.
As I start going down on her she says, “no… stop, stop”
So I stopped… then she said, “Why did you stop?” it was a “mixed signal” and to keep on going
LOL this is real and I notice it all the time from girls who are literally interested and wanting connection, but they say “the opposite” thing and show opposite body language sometimes.
In today’s day, I am sensitive to the issues of consent and really want to be a good guy, while not being the “nice guy who finishes last”… feel like I’m finding a nice balance, BUT
I am also aware that I may be reading these flirtatious mixed signals WRONG sometimes and completely rejecting amazing girls who want me out of a personal fear of being too pushy.
I need advice from the female perspective
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No means no. If someone wants to play a game with you, don’t assume all women are playing that game. You shouldn’t support that game by playing along as if it is normal or ok.
>So I stopped… then she said, “Why did you stop?”
You say: “because you said “no” / “stop” “would you like to continue?”
Next time she does that mixed response, look deep in her eyes and say, “The mercy word is ‘pineapple’ if this gets too hot for you.” Then proceed to go down on her.
I get that women have their kinks so for this case, you need to make it very clear that you have a secret word that she can say if things are escalating too fast outside her comfort level or she actually wants you to stop.
Fuck it. Don’t bother. If she gives mixed signals like that, ditch her for someone who’s honest.
I have no idea why that woman said no when she meant yes, but that’s not normal. If a woman says no, take her at her word.