yes, i’m begging you, mines are always too obvious :(. I’m tryin to make friends in uni and it’s soon godamn hard when I cannot make people laugh at all. My jokes don’t land and I assume that since guys are often more used to joking you guys can help me . I’m a woman btw
I almost always spit out some dad joke or some old AF joke. Not in purpose tho it just pops in my mind and it’s up to me whether I say whatever failed jokes I happen to be thinking of and that’s better than being lame and boring. đ I do not know how I used to make my best friend laugh all the time in middle school, I never ever felt bored back then.
I just can’t feel amused when I don’t feel like the people around me value me or want to hang out with me.
Tried to join a group and as soon as my acquitance left I felt totally tense and went quiet again! nooooo.
I like being fun , it’s fun! đđđ I can’t connect with these people đđ i cannot relate to most things people of my age do.
sexual jokes dont suit me , influencer jokes don’t either, alcohol or sarcasm aren’t my strong suit.
Example of lame joke:
– person 1: ahhh finally fuck them! (in a light-hearted way)
– me: “Finally with f of fuck them”
– person 2: ah haha funny (in a sarcastic way)
example 2:
– person : how?
– me: how?
– person : how?
– me: howdy đ€
– person: omg that’s a 2014 joke. (said in a lightheaded way, not meaning to hurt me)
English is not my native language and I’m trying my best to match as accurately as possible the puns used in each example
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You either just are funny or youâre not. Sorry.
Well, my first thought is that you’re not telling jokes. Both of your examples are just nonsensical words with no setup, no punchline, no connection to the topic, you’re just saying random sounds. It’s not even wordplay. Do these translate differently in your native language, or is this something you would say in english?
You are trying too hard and probably reek of desperation. Stop trying to be someone else and be yourself. Bad jokes are worse than no jokes
I use â[deadpan](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deadpan)â with very sharp wit. Its sometimes minutes to days that people get the joke. Sometimes Iâll make jokes no one gets and Iâll laugh and just walk away. Iâvr had several people say âyouâre one of those crazy white boisâ. But usually when a sledgehammer is involved
Dry, dark, sarcastic, deadpan type of shit. I don’t laugh at my own jokes I just always look the same and some people love that shit. A lot of it is just roasting my friends and family but not taking personal shots at them.
Get the “Pretty Good Joke Book” by Garrison Keillor. Read it. Then come back.
Iâve gotta be brutally honest, I donât find women remotely funny unless theyâre attractive, obliviously stupid, or injure themselves not too seriously.
If I had to take a shot, just get good at word play and puns. But telling people stand-alone jokes arenât much funny either. Learn how to tell a story to where people are invested into what youâre saying. Once you notice that people are engaged in your story (typically the more absurd the better but donât lie too much) then youâre finding gold
Donât force jokes with hopes of them landing. Just give honest responses to whatever the topic is and add a little exaggeration and people will laugh if its funny. Also, donât make it obvious that itâs a joke because if people donât laugh, you can just leave it in the past and it wonât be awkward.
I read your examples. Youâre gonna have to just lift jokes for a while. at least until you get the hang of it.
that means steal them. there are two ways you can steal jokes.
First way is you go find a joke that you like , and you literally just quote them as if theyâre your own. The cardinal rule is that if someone says, hey thatâs a Bill Burr joke, you have to fess up and say youâre right. You canât just keep pretending itâs your joke. The goal is to try to get away with it as if itâs your joke.
Second method is a little bit more, letâs say academic, ask your buddies that make all these jokes with you who their favorite comedians are. Make sure you memorize the name of the comedians, donât make it obvious. go online and go look at their standup material or whatever the hell material theyâre producing. Try to see if you can replicate the structure or theme or some kind of resemblance where itâs not clear that you stole it, you just âliftedâ the outline.
The goal of this method is to see if you can get them to laugh naturally, not like a petty left they are giving you currently. Once you kind of see what things they can naturally laugh at, you can adjust your style of comedy to your own personal flavor with the loose outline you already had. The goal overtime is to abandon the outline you store and ideally have your own type of jokes. This practice is a good way to help you âread the audienceâ
you might actually have really funny jokes and good delivery and everything but if your audience is not receptive, it doesnât matter if youâre the funniest guy( or gal) on the planet.
I do my jokes with a bunch of chill dudes who really want to seek out a good laugh. but I never do my jokes with middle-class women who are into namebrand stuff and spend a lot of time on social media because theyâll get offended by everything. my jokes will not work with both audiences. I can only pick one audience. So I have to pick my audience very carefully.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
so, if none of this advice is good, I would suggest you go to the library and pick up books on humor and comedy. There are a lot out there. Iâve written many papers in college about the stuff so I know theyâre out there. Mostly the literature is going to be from the 70s and thereâs going to be a handful from the early 2000s.
Consume comedy, make jokes to make yourself laugh. My style is opportunistic, I usually always have a piece of my attention on what could be funny from a situation/discussion. It’s not to make others laugh, just because I kinda like it, it makes me laugh (internally) even if I don’t say it out loud. Though one of the funniest things to me is messing with people (not in a hurtful way) by confusing them, then finishing with a punch. I’ve been told I’m funny, but I usually just do it for myself, life is boring without it.
When I grew up I used to consume a lot of comedy, like I’d watch all the stand up I could get my hands on just because I loved it so much. I think it shaped my thought process and opened my mind to some ways to view situations, phrases, words, etc. in a way that facilitates humor.
TL;DR: Consume comedy, have fun making jokes for yourself.
You’re probably not funny. Stop trying to be funny. Saying cringeworthy jokes is much worse than never saying anything funny at all.
I just have a tendency to make smart ass comments in context, e.g. someone talking too much and saying “so anyway so long story short” and blurting out, “more like long story long.”
About 90% of being funny in a crowd is listening to what other people are saying, to know what will land.
I do know that the one woman who completes the joke I’ve missed when I run out of steam in a conversation is the one I’m currently just completely infatuated with.
Most of those are one-liner or one-word jokes from something way earlier in the conversation and I just missed the last connection, but when she nails it it’s gold.
Oh man
Get to know your audience and read the room.
Basically, get to know people first. Everyone has their own sense of humor and you’ll be able to tailor your humor. Some people laugh at everything. Some people are very pleasant but not very jokey. Some people are serious but can be derailed with one well-placed joke. In a group setting, pay attention to what’s being joked about and how. You may have a great joke but maybe it ends up being too mean for the vibe, for example.
Go strike up conversations, get to know people, and embark towards a road of your own inside jokes and references and hilarity.
you need to stop using unfunny Amy Shumer type material. she isnt funny.
Whitney Cummings (creator of 2 broke girls) is funny
Joan Rivers and Phylis Diller are funny.
Don Rickles is funny.
joan rivers and don rickles use quick one liners to be funny.
I keep a very serious face so that they never see it coming. Half the time they think Iâm serious until the end. This way I get all of their attention.
You don’t need to make people laugh in order to get on with them or for them to like you. If throwing out a joke when you’re trying to keep a conversation going isn’t working, maybe try something else.
In general, though – when you make a joke, throw it away. Even if you think it’s something that merits a laugh, don’t say it *expecting* a laugh. Say it, keep going. If they laugh, fine. If they don’t, fine.