My bf wants me to throw away my vibrator, i’ve had it for about 2 years and i love it, before having it i honestly thought i’d never be able to orgasm, i do have other toys (wand, etc) but i prefer this one, it just makes me feel the best. he wants me to throw it away since he doesn’t want anything “penis” shaped going inside of me except for his dick. I don’t want to get rid of it, we do have a good sex life but i’ve never been able to finish while in bed with him, hes telling me that he’ll make it up to me, that he’ll make me cum, that i should just do it bc i have the wand and he doesn’t mind that one, that he can even give me the money that i spent on it and other stuff, i don’t want him to feel bad but the wand doesn’t feel the same and i truly have the best orgasms with my other vibrator. :/
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I suggest you get rid of the insecure controlling man child.
He is insecure over a *sex toy*? You deserve to have whatever brings you the most pleasure, and if he can’t hang, he doesn’t deserve you because he cares more about his ego than your pleasure. Throw away the BF instead.
Sounds like you should throw him away. I love using toys on women. Tell him to chill out.
1. If he is going to “make it up to you” then he should do be doing that already.
2. Do not feel bad. You are not responsible for someone else’s feelings.
3. Toys are awesome and if he loves you he should be overjoyed that something can make you that satisfied.
4. If my husband of 10 years said that I had to get rid of my Satisfyer Pro 2 because he feels insecure I’d laugh so much and just never have sex with him again.
Yeah I’ve read half way through this and already know. He sounds pathetic. A jealousy of a female sex toy is as silly as jealousy can get. Keep it. If it’s a problem for him then he can leave.
>he doesn’t want anything “penis” shaped going inside of me except for his dick.
So I’m guessing tampons are forbidden?
Jokes aside, this is absurd. Keep the toys, ditch the boy
Or, if you want to try talking him down, explain to him all the great things he does during sex that your toy doesn’t do, and how a piece of rubber cannot replace him. And explain that depriving you of your toy is like asking him to cut off his hands or cut him off from porn, two things which are probably essential for him to orgasm alone. What he’s asking of you is completely unfair.
Yeah. If you read my history you’ll see that I posted a question about my wife and I adding toys to our marriage. Slightly different scenario but I was wondering if she’d stop responding to me the same way. I got great responses and we’re now regular toy users. Homie needs to grow up.
Well while vibrators don’t replace the need for human contact. They are more reliable 🤷🏻♂️
He should take this opportunity to sit with his discomfort and tolerate and observe it. And grow to the point where his GF getting orgasms isn’t a problem for HIM.
Besides toys are so much fun to use with a partner
He’s acting like an ass , he may have other great qualities but this is not one of them
Hmmmmm. You don’t necessarily need to “throw the guy away”. This appears to be VERY common. His request is the result of an overreaction, which can be worked through, if he’s willing to talk it out. My suggestion is to use it with him (maybe frequently) to remove the stigma of it. This worked for my husband…eventually. He came to see the toy as really just an object and not “competition”.
Man, if he’s not making you orgasm and that toy is, keep the toy… If he’s that insecure and intimidated by a vibrating dildo, he’s got bigger problems.
I didn’t even know what I was in for till my man bought me my 1st one. I LOVE them! I would say no!
Tell him that he’s not allowed to touch himself anymore because ain’t no bitch getting near your penis. And frankly he’s being a little bitch so no wanking for him until he grows up.
Oh yeah? Go and check his browser history. You might find he’s a hypocrite.
Terrible he should be using it on you! The more toys the wetter… I mean better
Throw Your Bf away – it’s more important for Your health than he is.
Throw away your boyfriend instead.
That’s because he’s intimidated by it and he doesn’t know how to use it to make you cum harder than you ever have before
If he’s masturbated since you’ve met, tell him he’s going to have to get rid of Rosy Palm.
Yea throw the boyfriend away.
Sex is MAGICAL with toys. His loss. If he’s insecure about a piece of plastic I can’t imagine how he treats you in other aspects of your life.
I’d much rather have a vibrator than an insecure, controlling manipulator of a bf.
I’ve been there when I was younger. I’m 30 now and use vibrators on my gf with the up most pleasure. I love watching her cum.
The male insecurity posts I see on this sub lol
As a man it embarrasses me to see so many of us being so insecure. Not to mention controlling.
So… it doesn’t sound like -quite- the same situation, but I did have a fight with
my wife about her Hitachi (which I bought for her). The problem was I had been asking for sex and been repeatedly turned down, but then found she had been using her vibe while I was at work and she just wasn’t in the mood when I got home. I could care less if she’s using it, but what hurt me was I felt like I was being replaced. I’ve even told her that I don’t mind her using it if I don’t get the job done. The communication (fight) that ensued really helped our relationship. If he’s saying don’t masturbate at all, that’s wrong, but if you have been replacing his advances, I guarantee he’s hurt.
Well all I see here is “Throw your BF, he is insecure etc”.
I hate to break it to all of you but people are allowed to have insecurities and it could be for thousands of reasons. Maybe porn has made him feel insecure about his performance or his dick, or maybe he feels like he should be able to make OP finish or anything else.
The thing is that everyone has insecurities and while they’re never based on logic they still have power over us. He is not a bad person or an asshole for being insecure, it could just be the fact that he didn’t know better. Obviously throwing away your vibrator is not a good thing, because you should be able to have fun by yourself however you want, but the best thing would be to talk to him and explain that’s it’s just a toy and it gives you pleasure. Maybe make him use it on you, or while you’re having sex or maybe you can buy a different one that’s doesn’t look that much like a dick but still gets the job done. If you two are in a good and healthy relationship all these problems don’t really need that much to get solved. And if you can’t find a good solution together then yeah, maybe he is an asshole and you don’t really have to care about it. But only after you’ve tried the other soltions first.
Hell no, this isn’t him feeling bad this is him being insecure and controlling. I suggest you dump him but if not do not and I mean do not give in and get rid of your vibrator. If you do I can guarantee his insecure controlling behavior will not end at that.
Sound like you need to throw away the boyfriend. 🤷♀