How long does it usually take for your house to feel like *home* whenever you move?

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1. This is going to sound really cheesy but I don’t consider my house a home anymore… home is where my partner is. My partner and I live separately right now and I only feel at home when he’s around. We’re in the process of buying a house together now so we can both finally feel at home.

2. I adapt well so I’m at home in a new place in days. On long vacations I start calling our hotel “home” after a few nights.

3. 6 months or so

4. I’ve only moved once and it was when I got married.

   The apartment we got didn’t feel like home until our first Christmas there. Between him not being home for the first month and our busy schedules, it just didn’t feel like home until the cozy Christmas vibes came round. (I definitely think “home is where the heart is” but having a place where you and your person can call your own is a close second)

5. A couple of months. Usually when the place is more full of my stuff. When it actually feels like it’s been “lived” in then I call it home.

6. 3 to 6 months. We moved all over the country when I was a kid, I moved quite a bit in my young adulthood and then like once between 24 and now. It always takes me several months to feel properly settled and At Home. I need a familiarity with my space that it takes a little time to build. It goes quicker with specific signifiers in the space (generally my books and a few trinkets and peices of art I’ve toted from one location to the next since I was very young). I feel comfortable very quickly. I need time to feel like I’m Home though, and the two things are very different.

7. For me, it’s not necessarily the house but the town/city/state. I loved my last house as a residence but I never felt at home there because I hated where I lived. I was really lonely, away from my family and friends, and felt really stuck. That lasted for nine long years. I finally moved exactly a year ago to a new state and I finally feel happy and at home.

8. 6-9 months. I then get kind of attached. And become very nostalgic when I move out and I cry and cry 😭.

9. This is a tough truth that some people encounter including myself. I bought a very nice house in a wealthy area but I’m still in the same place where I was raised. My parents live about 5 miles up the road but this place hasn’t really felt like home since I wasn’t even born here and I have no extended family here. Money is not making me happy, I guess I don’t really know what a “home” feels like. I think if I lived somewhere where I’m at peace with myself then maybe that’s where my home is.

10. For me, it takes about 6 months. That’s probably because I don’t move often, so I get really comfortable where I live.

11. It depends. Some places it takes a while. Where I am now, I felt it as soon as I opened the front door to do an inspection. It was my home that second.