I went to the store today. As I walk I see this girl : beautiful, redhead girl staring at me. So I stare back. We are looking at eachother for 2 seconds and then we look away. Two seconds later I look back at her and she is staring at me again with a cute smile this time. 1, 2, 3 seconds passes, she even turned her body as I was passing her and guess what I did, I was just staring at her. No smile, no “hi”, nothing. Why am I like this? I missed great opportunity again because my brain just resets everyday I am going to sleep. Yesterday I said to myself that I will smile at everyone I see staring at me. Today I wake up and my brain just is back to “zero” where I do nothing to change. I am not shy. I am not anxious, it my brain being weird. Is it possible to change it?
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I would say the reason you stared instead of talking is because you didn’t know how to proceed.
What you can do is prepare 1-2 things to say/do beforehand.
Also, practice saying it on your own (yes, it’s going to feel weird)
New habits take a lot of practice and time before they feel natural. Leave up a post it or change your alarm to say “Smile at people” to give yourself a reminder.