I asked who’s the prettiest girl u ever been with?
He said …. (the name of his ex)😳
And then he went on and on about her
He said she wasn’t just beautiful but smart she understood him so well…
I thought it was going to be a wholesome moment and he was going to say it’s you. But he just said her name!!
And then he kinda took back that he loved me. He said it’s different I truly loved her. But I love u in a different way I care about u🙃🙃🙃
Since we met he talks about their love story in a poetic way and tries to find any reason to talk about her and mentions the sweet funny memories even when we are sexting he always brings back what they did. It’s like I have a relationship with him and her at the same time, I also see the pain in his eyes when he talks about why they left each other. He also confessed that he always jerks off thinking about her until “we met” I doubt that. Although they broke up years ago since 2018. He also said whenever he’s in pain he always thinks about her. Even though we’re together.
This really broke my heart but I couldn’t say anything because it’s his birthday tmr

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  2. I was like “meh” until I saw this: “even when we are sexting he always brings back what they did. ”

    GIRL NOOOO. It is fine to think warmly about an ex. It is not ok to talk about it all the time when you know it hurts another person or makes them insecure. It is not ok for it to interfere in your current relationship, like sexting.

    Time to have a conversation with him.

  3. If they broke up in 2018, he’s been obsessing over her for five years. That’s a red flag. You should break up with him.

  4. This is not the guy for you.

    He’s not ready to be dating and he also lacks the common sense and decorum and self -control to not overshare hurtful things.

    You need to end this, now. He’s hung up on her and may be for years to come. That’s not your problem and you shouldn’t have to torture yourself listening to his nonsense.

    I guarantee you that this woman was only perfect in his memory not in real life. Let him live in his little fantasy world while you go off and be in the real world with a guy who’s emotionally available and willing to be invested in you.

  5. This is so sad. You deserve to be with someone who only thinks about you. Let him be alone with his thoughts of his ex. Give yourself a chance to be fully happy and in love with someone who deserves it. This is not that guy

  6. I just asked my boyfriend of 8 years this question after reading your post. Just for shits and giggles. Lol he didn’t say me. 🤣

  7. I told the last guy I dated that I felt like he wasn’t over his ex wife in an argument and his response was that I was probably right & he’ll probably never be bc she’s the mother of his kids.
    Don’t torture yourself like I did by hanging on to hope and potential. Let him go and go find someone that knows you’re #1 without any hesitation and treats you like it too. Don’t settle for second best.

  8. A guy doesn’t talk like that in front of the girl of his dreams. Be honest and confront how this reflects on your relationship.
    You now feel like second best and won’t ever forget this.

    Tell him that you don’t think he’s ready for a new relationship and that you want to be with someone who’s rooted in his present relationship. Plus someone who thinks YOU are the prettiest girl in the world would be great too.

  10. Listed every reason to leave 😭 he would definitely leave you for her in a heart beat if she gave his another chance. So sorry I know what it feels like to be in that situation

  11. While it’s good you know this particular answer in this situation. Women in general need to stop asking questions that they don’t want the answer to.

  13. Lol this guy is a doofus, but it sounds like you learned an important lesson about asking questions that you don’t want the answer to.

  15. “I asked who’s the prettiest girl u ever been with? He said …. (the name of his ex)”

    I this point I would be concerned about this man intelligence more than anything to be honest

  16. You make it sound like a love story from movies, why did they break up? Just curious

  18. He should talk to someone and you should live happily ever after with your dog .

  19. He’s being rude talking about his ex constantly, but come on now with the silly little fishing for compliments, that is so immature.

  21. > I asked who’s the prettiest girl u ever been with?

    Dont ask questions you dont want to know the answer to 😉

  23. I’m sorry but that is not normal behaviour. Who in their right mind would tell their gf, they think their ex is the prettiest girl. You are absolutely wasting your time. Go be with someone who only has eyes for you. May sound harsh but if someone’s stuck on someone else, they’re giving you less than you deserve. DUMPPP

  24. Yeah, you definitely need to dump this guy asap. No more dating guys who recently had a breakup from a long term relationship.

  27. Please leave him. Like yesterday. It’s not ok for him to be with you and still feel strongly as so for someone else and it’s not right for you to be with someone that doesn’t speak of you, like he does about her.

  28. I wouldn’t have asked a question that :
    1. I know I wouldn’t want an honest answer to
    2. Is going to encourage him to go on a whole spiel about his ex

    All that aside, he has some work to do before pursuing a serious relationship. Sad but confronting truth is that you’ll always be second best in his mind and unless you enjoy feeling the repercussions of that, I’d leave and find someone that is fully assembled and doesn’t constantly reminisce and discuss past lovers.

  29. >I asked who’s the prettiest girl u ever been with?

    Why? Sounds like you sabotaged yourself.

  30. Bro I don’t even talk about my ex in front of women I casually have sex with. This dude got some issues. If you don’t leave go seek some help yourself because we are only getting your end of the story.

  31. I’ve been in a similar situation and it always made me feel really insecure and not good enough. I ended up forming extremely unhealthy habits for myself and hurting my own feelings more than once looking through his or her socials.

    I would say leave now while it’ll hurt less.

  34. I’m curious why they broke up?
    But I will say he is not the guy for you. Sounds like he needs a psychologist, he needs to learn to move on.

  36. Well, you asked a loaded question and got the wrong answer.

    You shouldn’t fish for compliments in such a clumsy way, and he should have the smarts to not gush about his ex, who he clearly hung up on.

    Anyway, find a new guy. There, that was easy.

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