I (f20) am well into college and my two high school friends (m20),(f20) are still trying to be my friends after our dynamic has clearly changed and we are very much far from being compatible anymore. After denying hanging out the whole summer, they still are texting asking what my issue is and wanting to fix our relationship.
I no longer want to hangout with them because when I do it’s awkward, quiet, and there is nothing to talk about or relate to eachother on anymore. However, if I say what I’m actually feeling I know it will become a combative discussion/argument instead of a understanding resolution. There is nothing to be fixed in this relationship, I just need space away from them and need it to be broken off.
How do I go about this? What is the nicest possible way I can tell them, “it’s over and I just want my space”?
TL:DR, I’m having a hard time ending things with my high school friends as a junior in college.
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Suggestion: Don’t exactly lie; say you are studying for next year’s courses so don’t have time. It is best to keep this amicable if possible.
Do not burn bridges may need something family can’t provide or spouse good to keep these connections just do not need to hang out with them everyday or everytime. If friends are into drugs and alcohol then that different story, but always good to maintain friend especially close regardless if they are PHD or high school graduate.