I’ve (17M) always heard about the fact that teenage relationships never last more than a year, and always thought to myself that my girlfriend(17F) and I will make it past this hurdle and prove them wrong. The relationship went down south since we finished our exams and went on some NCS camping. as well as some embarrassing moments that I really can’t share. She started our relationship and also decided that it was best to end the relationship because apparently I was commanding (when it went both ways) and that the relationship was in fact exhausting mentally for her, and she didn’t want to go to bed thinking that she made me annoyed and stuff. It hasn’t hit 24 hours but I’m already feeling the loss of her at this point.
I decided to talk to her about our problems, and whether we could fix it and restart (this was my initial plan) but she ended it by text, and she said it was draining her, whilst, she doesn’t seem to feel it or care in my opinion. Maybe I’m wrong. We’ve loved each other for 9 months, and I’m personally just asking should I try to make it work and perhaps try harder to take it back to the way it was, or should I leave it completely and find my own path different to hers?
I still dearly love her, and its a weird occurence as I couldn’t even sleep last night from it, and I feel I should feel free perhaps, but at the same time, I have a banging on my chest. I really don’t know even how to clear myself of this break up, any tips or ways to make it happen?
Questions that need to be answered :
1. should I try to make it work and perhaps try harder to take it back to the way it was, or should I leave it completely and find my own path different to hers?
2. I really don’t know even how to clear myself of this break up, any tips or ways to make it happen?
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TL;DR! – I just had my first breakup and I am looking for advice on whether to still pull my weight and ask her to come back (which she said was mentally draining)? If not, how should I deal with this because its immensely stressful and a first to me, so I’m not feeling to good
2 comments
Your desire to be with her should not be more important than her need to end this.
Sounds like she’s clearly not interested anymore. Try to cut contact with her and get over her. It will be problematic if she’s in the same social circle and you’ll be accidentally seeing her constantly, but if that’s not the case, you will forget quickly.