I have a friend who is doing certain new things in her life. One of them is taking up a new study to be able to do the same profession as me.
This particular profession requires a lot of certain (social) skills like being able to naturally work very well with other people, taking up firm leadership and also being able to see your own flaws and actively work on them. These are all things my friend is not very good at and so far the study isn’t that big of a succes.
My friend insists though that it’s not her fault but the study-system being unclear and just straight out bad.
I am specialized in training others in my profession and I see a lot of very red flags when my friend tells me about her experiences. I think this might really not be the kind of job for her. I really want to be honest about it, maybe making her see things aren’t going that well, but she is very sensitive and I am afraid she won’t take it up well.
How do I approach this? She is my friend, not one of my interns…
Sorry for being so vaguely; it would be so akward if she stumbles upon this post.
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I would say nothing, just continue giving advice.
Imagine a married person telling the spouse or a parent to her child “you shouldn’t do this job you want to do, it’s not the right job for you”. How do that sound?
In your case you’re not even in her family.
So let her do her.
The max you can do is saying “you do realize the job require X, Y and Z?” and not push it.