This may sound odd but I’m going through a really hard time in my marriage. We have a 2 month old beautiful baby girl and I (33F) have been living with my mother post delivery so that me and the baby can be cared for easily. My husband (31M) lives alone just few blocks away from us. He doesn’t come to visit us. We don’t have a happy marriage and we thought that things might get better once we have a baby (not saying that baby will make things better for us). But we are at a point where we both are in severe depression, contemplating divorce. Everyone around me are asking me to compromise because that would be the right thing to do (for me and the baby). Everyone around me is telling me that life after divorce would be really uncomfortable and lonely so it’s best that I compromise. But this constant pressure is just pushing me away even further away from this marriage. I have been in therapy for 1 year now. Trying to make amends in myself to move past things which might be causing the triggers. But sadly, I don’t think I’ll ever be happy with him. We are polar opposites.
Can someone just send me positive stories of their lives on how you worked past it. Or even got to divorce but are now in a better place with someone who actually appreciates them.
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I left my first husband and am now remarried to someone who lights up my whole world. I am grateful every single day that I was brave enough to walk away.
I left my first marriage because I was an immature idiot. She did not deserve it but she did go on to get married again and as far as I know she is still happily married. I eventually found the woman I am married to and we are happy. I did make bad mistakes in this marriage but she forgave me and we are still married. Here is the thing. If both of you are willing to work on yourselves to make this marriage better it can be great. But it has to be both. The other thing is if you do get divorced you need to learn to become a better you. I’m not blaming you or anything but if you take the time to know yourself better and work on yourself when you are ready to date again you’ll be in a better place.
Having a two month old is a very challenging time. Please give each other room and try for her sake. My dad left when I was two weeks old. That lasts a lifetime.