Hey everyone. Well as the title says I (m31) have a date with her (f30) for tomorrow. She’s living in another city so I have to drive approximately 1.5 hours but that’s okay.
We met each other on a huge day rave in the city I am living. She was alone there and we just danced side by side and suddenly started talking. After a while we even kissed each other, making out pretty heavily. She had to go around 7pm so we didn’t have sex but she told me that she would welcome me in her city for a tour. Since then we stayed in contact and write each others on a daily basis.
Now the problem is that I was never good at dates…in all honesty I met mostly all my ex partners in nightclubs and connected with them in an instant. I don’t even know if I should kiss her tomorrow as soon as I see her…I’m really confused as I don’t know how far I should go with her. If I hold myself back she probably thinks that I’m not interested while escalating might be way too much as I’m just the dude she met on a rave…
I would be really grateful for any advices or ideas.
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My only advices would be, don’t behave like a person you aren’t. Act the way you are and not to her liking just to get points for getting laid.
Don’t Kiss her unless she doesn’t send signals but it’s OK to be a bit flirty, don’t behave like douche.
Don’t kiss her as soon as you see her
A big hug would be fine.
If you go in with “I hope I don’t fuck it up” scarcity mindset energy you’ve already lost.
Don’t overtalk about yourself, always let her babble 60% of the time. When you are talking try your best to talk about funny/crazy stories and always have the nonchalant charisma. Do your best to talk in low frequency. Don’t avoid eye contact. If you get a second/third date go for the kiss.
Your primary focus is letting her know about the fun life you’re having, so she could join in. If she doesn’t want to, that’s fine. Good luck.