So this is a very dumbass situation.
I (21f), jokingly asked my (21m) boyfriend of 1 year if he would still love me romantically if I were to magically switch my gender tomorrow. It’s a “would you love me if I were a worm” silly type of question.
So when I asked him that question, I put him in couple of different scenarios. It wasn’t a provocation or some kind of a test to see how much does he love me. It was just plain curiosity. I should emphasize first, I don’t want to switch my gender.
Now for example, I asked him if he would hold my hand and kiss me in public or if he would ever consent to sex. He said no to everything because he is not gay, which I understand. But then I put him in a different situation and asked him how he would feel knowing that I, in that man’s body, am the same girl I used to be. And so on.
This went on for about 15 minutes until he grew iritated of it and wouldn’t speak to me anymore.
As i said before, i wasn’t trying to test him, I was just curious how would he react in those situations (much like reading a book), and I told him that. But he is still mad because “he felt awkward because of those questions”.
And I don’t want to apologize because then the apologie wouldn’t be sincere.
From then, we had a fight in which he said that I don’t respect him and that I don’t care about his feelings.
But for me, it was a very stupid and harmless situation, and I can’t belive it resulted in a fight.
Should I apologise?
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15 minutes worth of hypothetical questions to see how he would “react in those situations” and you don’t think you were testing him? During your interrogation, did you notice his discomfort with your questions, before he reached his limit? If your bf believes you don’t respect him or care about his feelings, this situation isn’t stupid or harmless. This needs to be worked through and not dismissed.