Long story short, my bf 28M and me 18F ( yes i know about the age gap ) I’m just sexually frustrated. He either cums way to quick or not at all. Last night we were having sex and i made all the effort to get dressed up in a nice lingerie outfit and he was hard but whilst we were fucking he just turned soft which i get happens so i wasn’t too bothered. So we said let’s try again in the morning and it just happened again. Usually when we have sex PIV he cums under 3 mins or just doesn’t at all. The sex was so awful coz he was trying to have sex with me still but he was clearly soft so it just wouldn’t go in. I feel so annoyed I’m just tired i crave sexual excitement i feel like a bad person because out of the bedroom he’s amazing I’ll never find a guy like him but he’s so bad in bed and i have never cummed orgasmed once and I’m just frustrated. And i feel insecure . I feel horrible because i love him as a person he’s such a kind soul but awful at sex and i get jealous because i crave excitement so bad
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Sounds like you guys need to explore a bit further than piv in the bedroom!
Gows the foreplay game? Do you two manage to have some fun before doing the deed? Would more foreplay make things better for you?
Do either of you have any kinks, fetishes, or fantasies you’d be willing to share with the other and explore?
I’m sure many comments will be, you’re not sexually compatible, just leave him.
Sit him down and ask him the hard questions.
What’s on his mind?
What’s making him get in his own head when in the bedroom?
(Be direct but nice about it, men have feelings too and are easily hurt.)
Tell him what you are expecting of him, then ask him what he expects of you etc.
Nothing wrong with the age gap, Maturity doesn’t have a numerical value to it.
In what way has he never made you orgasm?
Is there any foreplay? Any build up? Or does he just try to jam it in there and get off?
I’m a bit hypocritical when I say this because I’d rather die than do this but hopefully you’re braver than me, talk to him! It’s nearly always the answer. You’re still young, if talking ti him doesn’t improve stuff then, we’ll all I’ll say is people have broken up for less. Good luck to ya
Some questions come to my mind.
How long have you been together? It was always like this?
Does he watch porn or something at all?
What you two do usually besides piv? Where?
It may not be a match if he gets soft. Not anyone’s fault, just not a working battery. Don’t exert energy feeling insecure or bad. He can be a kind soul but may not make a suitable sexual partner at this time. Once he or you both find out what’s going on with him, you can try again.