I’m 19 now, I graduated from high school last year and now I’m in college and I have a job now. I have a 22 year old sister and she brings up my teenage years and high school everyday. She says things like “well you aren’t that young anymore” and “you know you aren’t in high school anymore right?” and the other day ago I hung out with one of my friends from high school and my sister said “does she actually remember you? it’s been so long since you guys were in high school”. Oh and the other day ago my sister said “Your days of having fun are over, you are a grown adult now and you aren’t that young anymore”. It’s so weird and I don’t know what to even do about this, she is obsessed, I guess with trying to make me feel old or something.
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‘getting older doesn’t mean I have to stop enjoying life’
Sounds like maybe she’s having issues with being out of school (some peoples high school experience is their peak) and is projecting onto you.
“Thank you, captain obvious” or “and your point is…” or “no shit Sherlock” or “and that was the 25th time you’ve said that today, going for a new record?” Or “I’m worried about you, you keep repeating yourself.”
It’s been one year since you graduated. It hasn’t been long and yes, you are still young. She has some weird issues, just ignore it.
What’s up with your sister anyway! Looks like she had awful high-school time and trying to shit that on you.
Dude just enjoy your life and yes you’re still young and you can whoever the fuck you want whether they were highschool friends or even elementary school friends.
Tell her to give you a break for once and all.
Sounds like she’s projecting some weird shit onto you for some reason. You can be sarcastic back, or just ignore it. I don’t think there’s much more to it than that.
Start any questions you ask her with “as my elder, how would you do/what would you say…?” Or stuff like “I figure since you’re so much older than me, you’ve probably been through this a few times before. Any tips?”
“Have you gotten dementia in your old age, sis? You seem to keep repeating the same old nonsense over and over. I guess your behavior is a preview of coming attractions for old age.”
Lol she peaked HARD AS F*CK if she’s that annoying.
Woah, projecting much? Sounds like she’s the one feeling “not too young anymore” and missing high school.
“You may be getting senile, but my friend does remember things from a year before.”
your sister is a weirdo, and maybe projecting a bit. you aren’t old until you hurt yourself getting out of a chair
People have given some clever snarky responses that will feel great in tbe moment, and also ensure that your relationship with your sister will continue to deteriorate.
If you want a more comfortable and closer relationship with her, try something that is curious about why she keeps saying that. ” You’ve said that a lot. What are you feeling that makes you keep hammering this? “
Just say ‘Sis you may have peaked in high school but my best years are ahead of me so speak for yourself’ also comment on everything great about your life right now and say you were wrong post-high school life is great you must be doing something wrong.
confront her and ask if she’s projecting her grief of highschool onto you
Is your sister alright?
Just remind her that she has a 10 year reunion coming up and tell her not to forget her LifeAlert
She probably feels old now that her lil sibling has graduated and is unaware she’s being weird. Call her out, let her know she’s even older and farther from high school if need be but also don’t worry too much about it
+1 for projecting. She needs help.
>Your days of having fun are over, you are a grown adult now and you aren’t that young anymore”
That’s the most depressing thing a person can say. “you have to stop having fun when you turn 18”. She sounds like on of the people that believes your school days are the best years of your life. Really sounds like she’s not done well since leaving.
You should break up with her
She is unhappy in her early adult life, she thinks everyone else should be because that what “being an adult” is to her
Don’t treat yourself like you cant be a kid any more, you might end up bitter and angry like your sister sounds, and like I was for a few year before I started going backing and enjoying my self rather than doing all the “adult” things I was told I had to do after I hit 18.
Go out and have fun, but just make good decisions that wont hurt you down the road.
You can just ask her why she is so hung up on high school life because she is getting really weird. Does she miss it??
My petty ass would be like “Yeah, I guess you’d know, it’s been *ages* since you left high school.”
Projectionist
High school was lame and I haven’t stopped having fun since.