Hey all! So I (26F) have been dating my boyfriend (26M) for about 4.5 years. I recently opened up a new bank account with his bank instead of mine and I’ve had his log in for his bank account since we first started dating because he didn’t have a reliable phone, he kept cracking the screen. When we first started dating, I was curious as to what he would spend his money on (I know this was bad on my part) but I had discovered that he had subscribed and bought pictures on OF. We were rocky for a few weeks because of this and I lost a lot of trust for him. After we resolved things, he told me he wouldn’t do it again. I checked his account a month later to see if it was true and it had shown another OF purchase, but he had said it was automatic or something. About a year later, we’ve made quite a lot of progress in our relationship. I had not gone through his account since that last time because I wanted to try to trust him. Today, I tried using Face ID to sign into the new bank account that I had just opened, but it opened his account instead of mine despite that it had my user name already filled in. I assume the way it works is that it goes with the first saved authorization as the login unless if you manually type in the password. It’s really weird, but anyway, it had opened up to his account. I’m not gonna lie, I still have some issues trusting him when it comes to OF. So when it signed me in, I kind of asked myself if I really have nothing to worry about, if he really did stop. The first pending purchase I saw was for OF. I didn’t scroll down at all, I just saw that first one and closed the app. I’m not sure how to bring this up to my boyfriend again. If I don’t, I know this will eat me alive, but it doesn’t make a lot of sense as to why. I also assume maybe it’s because he’s extremely sexually active, I’m on the pill and so I don’t exactly crave/want to get intimate everyday, we went from everyday before the pill to gradually cutting back. I still get intimate with him in other ways, but maybe that’s not enough? He doesn’t show any signs of losing interest, he asks if I want to go through his phone when he feels like I’m being weird, like I genuinely do not understand. I want to approach this calmly, but I’m not sure how to or how he will react after learning that I saw his current bank statement? Please be kind, it really was an accident signing into his account today.
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Please save yourself from this unending misery and his lies and leave him.
Why do you want to stay with a man who watches other naked women get themselves off on a screen instead of respecting you? Of course you don’t want to bang him, why would you! He’s lusting after other women online, and then lying to your face like you’re a fool. Just leave him. He won’t change and he doesn’t respect you AT ALL. A man who would rather jerk off to random women on OF instead of respect his partners wishes is trash. Tell him you’re done with his lies and you’re leaving him.