Throwaway account
I absolutely adore my bf. He’s the
kindest, most understanding person in
the world. However, my therapist and I
believe he’s anxious attachment style
and he has a hard time understanding
how much space I need. He’s trying his
best but I’m not sure he realizes how
clingy he can be. I don’t know how to
explain it to him in a way that won’t hurt
his feelings. He’s seeing a therapist once
he gets insurance and in the meantime
he’s great at communicating so we’re
able to work through everything. I know
we can work through this, I’m just not
sure how to do it. I know that he’ll
respect it no matter how I say it, I just
need help communicating it to him in a
kind and productive way.
1 comment
Rather than focus on what he’s doing wrong, figure out exactly what you need and ask for that. For example, instead of saying “you ask for too much of my time” try saying “I need at least three nights a week to myself”. Or instead of “you cannot text me all day every day” say “I need a lower volume of texts throughout the day. Can you stick to a good morning, good night, schedule unless absolutely necessary?”.