Never been in true love so I don’t know what having sex with someone you love is like.
With my hookups I just feel awkward. I wait for him to put on the condom, we kiss, and we do the deed. But I don’t know what else to do.
I’m mediocre at head and handjobs. But when I do do them, I feel like something else should be happening besides me doing that. Yknow?
Idk. Advice? Someone? Any advice appreciated.
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This might be bad advice, but if you’re just hooking up with people, I’d recommend focusing on yourself and figuring out what you like/don’t like. A connection will form with someone eventually, so in the meantime, figure yourself out. And, cliche advice but, always communicate openly. Ask your partner what they’re into/not into and you might find something new you like. Casual sex is supposed to be casual so don’t put pressure on yourself, just have fun! It’ll spark eventually!
Maybe stop hooking up and focus on finding someone you have feelings for? You obviously don’t enjoy hooking up, so why keep doing it…
I’m at the other end of the spectrum. I’m a text book pillow princess, I’m selfish in bed and I know it. I don’t have a problem with it and my previous partners haven’t either. Being a starfish is another thing, but pillow princess ≠ starfish.
Find out what YOU like. I did this through masturbation, porn, sex toys and exploring with openminded partners. In my experience, my partners have appreciated me being able to tell them what I like/don’t like. I think men are easier to pleasure, and many people (men) feel aroused when they make another person cum/ feel good.
Play with yourself, honestly, it’s hot af.