What do you do in order to hint that your “no” is actually a “yes”?

26 comments

1. I don’t do that. Men already think every no is a yes if they push hard enough, why would I contribute to that?!

2. I say “yes” instead of “no.”

3. If I mean to say yes, I just say yes. And when I say no, it means no.

4. I say what I mean, playing games with your meaning is stupid.

5. Just be honest. If you are playing games – it’s time to rethink your behaviour

6. Uh .. what the fuck? If your “no” is actually a “yes” then you’re participating in rape culture.

7. On behalf of all men, I would like to apologize for the OP’s ignorance.

8. No means no. Yes means yes.

9. I don’t do that. No never means yes.

   If I want to have that sort of play it will take place with someone I trust and we will talk about it ahead of time.

10. Never been that deceptive. Women know their own minds.

11. When I mean yes, I say yes. Otherwise I say no.

    Kinda simple, really.

12. That isn’t a thing.

    No means no and yes means yes.

    It’s really fucking elementary.

13. That is not a game that you should be playing.

14. No means no.

15. Lmao what are you smoking?

16. You should be asking about when we say “yes” because we are afraid to say “no”. The opposite rarely happens, but agreeing to something out of fear or manipulation is more common, unfortunately.

17. You talk ahead of time about safe words and double confirm that when you say “no” it’s just part of the fantasy and only the specific safe words mean to actually stop.

    That is the one and only situation to do this.

18. When I really mean “Yes”, I use the word “Yes”.

    When I say “No”, what I’m really saying is “No. Keep it up and you’re getting a kick in the balls”.

19. I don’t play those games. Yes means yes. No means no.

20. I say suuuuureeee. Lol

21. We don’t! If we say no, take it as a no. Period!

22. I don’t. My no isn’t a yes. My no is a no.

23. This is a genuinely terrifying and simultaneously fucking disgusting proto-rapist question.

24. Don’t ever do this. You’re validating men who use no mean yes as an excuse to abuse women. Just say what you mean and mean what you say.

25. You say yes.

    If you say no then you should be able to expect him to respect that no for what it is.

    Posts like this are exhibit A in rape cases.

26. Aaahm… * long looking around like a child been cought with the hand on the cookie box * Noooooo????