So I’m (F, 22) have been dating this guy (M, 25) who literally works in a bar, so he’s exposed to plenty of people on daily basis; so him being interested in me was kinda surprising, but I’ve had plenty of similar guys be interested in me but as some kind of “thrill of the chase” and they’d either try to rush things or just leave when I start reciprocating.
We’ve been dating for around a month now, he’s been this gentleman: taking things incredibly slow, being cautious around me, kinda shy, didn’t even try to kiss me once but he’d give the impression he wanted to and he did say he really liked me, but contrary to my expectations, he hasn’t been at all physically intimate with me (not even holding hands)
We actually first communicated around 3 years ago, he remembered me, I didn’t, which was really flattering ngl.
We only have one mutual friend between us who claimed he’s decent but one of my girl friends keep telling me that it might be his way of charming girls and he’s had plenty of other experience so he’s an expert by now
I do tend to have my guard up and I wasn’t really looking for anything serious but I really like him and I’ve never met someone who’d take things slow tbfh, so I have no idea what to think or what to expect
TL;DR: I’ve been dating this guy for a month, his circumstances tell that he’s been with a lot of girls, probably a player but he’s taking things slow with me and I keep thinking it’s just a way to charm me then play me
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>but one of my girl friends keep telling me that it might be his way of charming girls and he’s had plenty of other experience so he’s an expert by now
Did she ever try to get with him lol Sounds like she’s projecting. Unless this guy has shown that he’s trash, you dont need to assume he is. Especially considering he’s been treating you with patience and respect.
His way of “charming girls” is to take things super slow? What is your friends logic here? lol I would imagine taking things slow is a sign of respect.
Sometimes your friends have shitty advice, unfortunately. I’ve had many instances of friends being completely wrong about somebody I was dating or was going to date. But hey…sometimes they’re right.
You haven’t kissed yet?
That’s how they play you. He knows how to manipulate.