I’m a woman. There are two other women who are very close friends to each other. All of us are transplanted from the same country.

One of them (A) is very insecure (and socially active) and the other girl (B) is a narcissist. A becomes easily jealous of others, and I guess B used me as her defending/distracting mechanism, especially when she bragged about her life to A. In some events, I noticed A was very jealous of me. It looked like A thought that I was always better than her in her troubled situations without thinking that she was better than me in many other situations, and that B was better than us in most situations.

They had parties and celebrations, but they mostly didn’t invite me. Even in some occasions when I was included, I wasn’t happy about how they treated me. For example, A insisted that all guests should take a box of the leftover food, and she particularly checked with me multiple times on which box was mine. I opened the box at home and was disappointed/upset about her.

Occasionally, they reached out to me expressing that they missed me and suggested a meeting among us. So far, I just met them whenever they suggested, but at this point I’m wondering what is the point of meeting them. Meeting them seems like just throwing them gossip materials about me and there is nothing good about my end. I’m not curious about their lives at all.

One of them messaged me recently suggesting a meeting among us. Is it okay to just ignore the message?

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  1. The point of inviting you is to get updated about your life and possible achievements to compare/envy. You all are not friends. And you know it. You can slowly slip away and ignore them. I wouldn’t recommend having a talk, the lack of maturity is showing. Having a common background doesn’t mean granted companionship.

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