Don’t feel super close to my dad

Ok, so I’m 19 (in college) and my dad is like 80, so there’s a huge huge generational disconnect.

My dad has done a lot for me, and I appreciate it, but I just don’t necessarily have a super close relationship with him although he’s been in my life the entire time.

If I’m being honest, I don’t really enjoy talking to him. We never talk about anything substantive and there’s like 0 emotional connection between us. I also don’t really feel comfortable telling him anything that goes on in my life because he’ll always find a way to turn it into a lecture. Whenever I’m home, he always treats me like a kid sometimes and it annoys me so so much.

I’m a lot closer with my mom and it’s pretty obvious. My parents also have a pretty strained relationship… they get along but honestly I think they only stayed together because of me. My dad has never been abusive, but it seems like he’s pretty controlling of my mom (for example he won’t let her get her own car even though she knows how to drive). She’s also ~20 years younger than him…

This was kind of all over the place but does anyone have any advice? If I’m being honest, I don’t really have any desire to improve our relationship at this point and have kind of accepted that he’s just kind of emotionally distant