Hello everyone,
I’m going to see a hooker ( again, for the second time ) pretty soon and I can’t help but feel ashamed. I lost my virginity to one a month ago, and now I can’t hold myself any longer and I’m going back to it again after I told myself I would only go to see what sex is like.
Now I realized it’s because I can’t get female attraction, attention any other way. Why haven’t I even done so much as had a conversation with a female since my last encounter?
Im hungry for sex, and I understand this is perfectly normal for a teen my age, but I wish maybe I just didn’t have to pay to get it, that maybe a woman could love me enough to do it voluntarily. Everyone I know is able to do that, all of my peers.
Can someone give me any advice or words to overcome this deep shame I’m feeling?
3 comments
Sexual shame is useless and not constructive
Fix what you can about yourself , practice safe sex. No one is broken unless they give up trying to move forward.
I went through a tough period of time long ago where I felt undatable this was not correct.
But whatever you think makes this your only choice. Why not try to improve it ?
It’s more likely you are too hard on yourself then you will never get a date.
Since you were not specific about what you think is your issue. I can only give general advice. Start small start trying to talk to women just like a normal every day person.
Make this a habit it will make future steps far easier.
Also when you get sex which was enjoyed its hard not to do it again. So keep in mind this is still very new to you.
Don’t reach firm decisions on what your future dating life will be like. You can’t read the minds of tons of women and figure out collectively how they will perceive you.
When we are depressed it’s like we think we have a super power and can predict our dating future. But only for bad things not for the good that can happen.
Also women don’t fall into your lap and ask for dates as a man we are the ones who do the pursuing.
It seems u have a self image and confidence issue.
Make something of yourself, have an irl focus, hobby interest or skill that is for yourself.
Something your confident and skilled in something that’s hands on n relaxing, carpentry for example.
Other skills and confidences will follow suit.
Getting involved in hobbies/social groups is a great way to meet people. I’ve met some of the coolest people ever from doing blues dance and Lindy hop