I (20M) have always kept myself as a high energy ecstatic person. I tend to be open with people, I offer to be there for people, and I often try to make sure their comfortable by asking. I also, whenever I meet people, state “If you ever feel uncomfortable with ANYTHING, please come to me.” Only for them to turn around, say I crossed some sort of boundaries or that I made them uncomfortable, without completely detailing it, such as “you made me feel as if you are creeping on me.” But when I ask for context, it is never given. I just want to find friends that I don’t have to worry bothering. Its ended friendships multiple times and I am on the verge where I think I could end it all. Please someone help me.
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Firstly your already making them uncomfortable by saying that phrase “if you feel uncomfortable with anything please come to me”.
Secondly learn to read and give body language as this plays a part in conversations
Thirdly learn to banter with others playfully, don’t always be the one initiating conversation, let them come to you
Lastly learn to calm your energy as this can come off as insecurities and people have a mirror effect mentally that others pick up on, YouTube it.
This all takes time even years, learn conversation topics and to be yourself, not everyone’s your friend and not everyone is your enemy. If they tell you your issues then you are changing “faking” yourself for them.