What’s the ratio of your SO telling you you’re doing a good job vs a bad job in your relationship?

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1. Easily 20:1

   We communicate often and well. We’ve made it very normal to say things like: I love you, thanks for doing X, you were awesome today, ect.

2. There is NO RATIO good job versus bad job.

   Just be direct and honest (bad job) and compliment her for good job.

3. I’ve apparently never done a good job during our 20+ year relationship.

4. My SO has never said I was doing bad in the relationship and if she ever did I’d probably kick her the fuck out my house and immediately fuck a random stranger out of spite

   Don’t start no shit won’t be no shit

   That’s how my family is, we just take your anger and bring it back on you 10 fold to the point we’re getting weopans

5. Probably like 50:1. We do express to each other when we feel like there are areas of our relationship we could improve. But it’s never like “you’re doing a bad job in this relationship. Do better.”

6. I never hear about doing a good job, it’s when I do a bad job that I hear about it.

7. She can’t say good job without it sounding super condescending

8. One sec let me get out my abacus ☝️🤓🧮

9. My partner would never tell me I was doing a bad job.

   But we do openly communicate if we have any issues. But we talk about our feelings and not about someone doing a bad or good job.

10. I rarely ever get told I’m doing a “bad” job. Sometimes she points out that I let things slide, but that’s it.

11. Definitely high, like realistically, it’s probably around like 25:1 usually.