tl;dr i (23 f) have been seeing this guy (25 m) for around 2 months, but i’m not really into it anymore and he’s super into it.
we both moved from our small town in idaho to a big city in texas within a month of each other. we weren’t friends back home because he was in a relationship but we had a lot of mutual friends. we connected as friends when we got down her and it organically grew into more.
now, he’s staying over a lot and we’re getting comfortable. he’s a really great guy, but there’s just some things that really bug me.
for example, he’s very emotional. if he’s in a bad mood, it’s known and it’s not fun being around him. he puts me in a bad mood a lot of the time and it just throws the whole day off.
second, he works as a bartender at a bottle service club. i have always said i wouldnt date a bartender because the schedule is all over the place and he has no future plans for a career, he just knows he doesn’t want to be a bartender forever. also, he’s tired all the time because his schedule is so late compared to my 9-5 job.
there’s a few more things negative, but he’s got a lot of positives. he is a very loyal, respectful guy and we have a great time doing anything. he’s also cute and super outgoing.
basically, i think i know right now i don’t want anything serious. maybe when he gets a different, more serious job i’d be open to something more but for the foreseeable future he will be a bartender and i don’t want to date someone in this position.
he knows i don’t want to date a bartender, but now that it’s starting to get more serious i think he thinks i’ll change but i haven’t. i feel guilty for wanting to be not as serious and maybe even take hooking up out of it so i stop catching feelings because he thinks things are great.
help i’m stressing out!