what is your biggest insecurity that you got from another woman close to you?

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1. Having small/medium no saggy boobs. I envy every women who have those.

2. My appearance in general (weight, boobs, complexion, hair, etc.) from my mom constantly calling me “homely” my entire life, from childhood to adulthood.

3. My friends made fun of the way my butt is shaped and said it is square and since then I can’t stop seeing it too. I’ve been body shamed by my family and friends pretty much my whole life, mostly because i’m over weight and it seriously sticks to a person.

4. In the first few years of my & hubby getting together & setting up home & kids, my mother-in-law constantly judged my housekeeping. Twenty years on, I still get stressed if she comes over. Thankfully we moved an hour away from her 2 years ago so rarely see her. I’m not a messy person by any means. I’m ultra tidy etc. Back then I had small children to look after but I still kept the house nice. She and her husband even poured some smelly chemical into my toilet while I was out! Rude!

5. My body shape. She is hourglass. No hip dips

6. Body image issues :/

7. I remember when me and some other girls who I thought were friends, talked about men and sex, we mentioned our body count, and when I mentioned mine they slutshamed me, which wasn’t just hurtful, but also weird because my bodycount wasn’t that much higher than theirs, I didn’t think they would think that of me and I think that’s why it hurt me so much

8. Nada

9. Most every insecurity is from my mom, and some from my dad. My mom made me feel like I was worthless, like I was a toy, and like my opinion didn’t matter. She made me question all my thoughts and feel as if I was always wrong. So, yeah, very insecure for a long time. My husband helped me see she was wrong and helped me overcome most of my insecurities. Still have a few that need work though.

10. My relationship with my weight is weird. I had a friend in high school who was petite while I was a bit chubby. She was obsessed with her weight, and when I lost weight, THEN she started picking on my weight. I would tell her not to and she would say its a joke and keep doing it. It really warped my body image. Now I avoid weighing myself. I am bigger than I was then, but I can look in the mirror and like how I look. Then I weigh myself and suddenly I look different and start pinching at my sides and stomach. I don’t know how to get rid of that.

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12. Stand up for what I like.
    I’ve been to an all girls school for 6 years and It was horrible. There was a group of girls in my year that hated everything I liked. Just because I liked it. Even though they liked something before and they found out that I like it as well, they started hating it.
    Music, movies, clothing. Everything. Until today – 5 years after leaving that school – I’m still embarrassed to tell other people about the music I like.