hey! so some background for this…
i’ve known both guys for almost about a year now. I was previously in a long-term relationship which has now ended (about two months ago) . I’ve worked with both of them at separate jobs which is how I met them.
To make things more complicated I live with one of them. I started liking him towards the end of my relationship (although this was not the reason the relationship ended) and moved in with him as he had a spare bedroom when my parents moved countries. Its been about two months since we moved in and we have been on dates and are having sex together. I’ve mentioned multiple times that i’m not too keen on a relationship right now given that I’ve just come out from one, and he said that’s fine, but more recently told me that he would prefer if we were dating.
now this other guy is super lovely and very attractive as well and we went on a date very recently and we kissed and I had a great time. I rly want to explore where this might go with him and go on some more dates but I’m afraid to hurt the other guys feelings. As well as this I don’t want to be exclusive and wish to continue to see other people and keep things casual.
Can anyone offer some advice?
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Take your time to decide, but I would suggest not playing in both sides while u take a decision.
I mean, if I found that I’m just an OPTION to the person I’m interested to, most probably I would lose that interest.
It’s OK if the excuse is you are not prepared for a relationship due to the last one being recent, but be honest about it.
Okay first of all I would definitely make sure everything is cool with the first guy since you’re living with him. I don’t know him but would make sure he’s mature enough to not do something petty and don’t want things awkward either. Anyway it’s perfectly fine to keep things casual and go through that phase as long as you’re upfront about it. At that point it’s on the other person. Do you think eventually you’d want something serious with one of them though(later on)? Don’t have to answer that I’m just curious.