For the first time in my life, I (29M) met up with a woman I met on OLD. My past relationships have organically developed out of friendships with people I met socially. So I’m pretty new to this kind of thing. I think the date went really well .. except that I don’t really feel attracted at all to her. I wouldn’t mind actually being friends with her. We had good conversation, lots of things in common, and she came across a really decent person. I got the feeling that she was happy with how the date went, so I don’t want to “ghost” her or hurt her feelings but at the same time of course I don’t want to lead her on knowing that nothing will come out of it. So what do you say in these situations? Do I just text the “I’m sorry but I’m not feeling it” message? Any suggestions on how to phrase or approach this better?
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“I think we got along well and everything but I didn’t feel any sparks. Are you up for staying in touch as friends?”
i say nothing unless she follows up and shows interest/asks me out again:
“it was nice meeting you, but im not interested in taking things any further. best of luck”