Hi, my name is Ana, i am female 21 and recently i meet a guy named Matheus, 19, but he has everything i woould want in a men to have a relationship with, we have a lot of common ideals and i really like him. The problem is, both of us started our dates talkiing that neither of us wanted to start really dating, we just want casual meetings, but i started to have feelings for him, and now i don’t know how to talk about it, because have the possibility to him not have the same feeling and go away becouse of mine. I’ve been hidding my feelings since then. Should I tell him i want to be his girlfriend or just wait him talk about it one day, suposing that this day will come?
`TL;DR!”Shoul i tell him i have feelings even if we told we were just casual?”`
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You could joke about it, tease him a bit, say a what if something, wink wink, dress nicely, smell nicely, jokingly say it’s just for him. Then wait for his move. If you hinted and he got the message and you subtly keep teasing him, he might make his move if he’s interested. Otherwise, forget it.
You could ask if he’s open to the possibility, rather than stating your intentions. Then you can decide how you want to proceed.
Casual meetings how? Like hanging out or hooking up?
Don’t waste your own time. If he’s into dating, great. If not, move on. You will not change his mind by continuing to see him, but you will end up hurting yourself.
I was once in the same situation. I finally went for it. Been married for 18 years.