Before the last 5 years of school I used to think that I am better than everyone and that made my demeanor outside of my home kind of serious with a constant “bitchy rest face”.
Even though I humbled myself and changed my way of thinking about myself and others, I preserved this very demeanor and find myself “using” it whenever I feel anxious. And feeling anxious or awkward in a place like school became like 70% of what I experienced there.
Sometimes my “seriousness” cracks and I start showing slight signs of awkwardness or fear, which is why burrying myself in a phone or a book became a habit.
I know it’s not okay, which is why I am writing all this. I am starting university this year and I really don’t want to get a reputation of a silent guy with a “don’t bother me” behavior. That’s what happened to me back in school I think.
How do I deal with my anxiety without appearing cold/rude/unwelcoming to people surrounding me?
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I’ve been in the same situation and I’m still working on it.
What is helping me is practicing meditation, it helps me clear my mind and be less anxious.
I’m getting etter by doing it and pushing myself out of my comfort zone, by practicing it gets better, I also read some books like “the fine art of small talks” and “how to talk to anyone, 92 tricks for big success in relationships”, I think you should give it a try.