Hi! I considered posting to other groups but specifically, I am curious as to why men might not like dirty talking.
There are valid reasons such as you just don’t or it doesn’t do it for you, but I feel like there’s more? I just want to understand why dirty talking (not just doing it, but hearing your partner do it) might not be your thing?
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I find sex to be an extension of love, and depending on the specific dirty talk, it demeans the sex for me. Probably not the most common of reasons, but it is mine
It’s tacky, but ig depends on who’s doing it.
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Dirty talking, as in phone sex ….. or dirty talking while fucking?
In a religious setting.
If you really mean it, it’s never a turn off
Generally I’m ok with it but there’s a limit. Like sprinkle it in, I don’t want to hear a fucking speech of it
it even annoys me in porn.
It’s kind of dumb and silly
I remember one girl kept saying to me “fuck my dirty little pussy” and I just kept thinking why is it dirty?
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Some dirty talk is aggressive or demeaning, which can be triggering for certain people. Also, some people are REALLY bad at dirty talk, which can be distracting and off-putting.
Strikes the cringe nerve
“I am going to fart in your face and shit on the walls”
When it becomes insulting.
everyone is different…I love when my wife talks dirty to me, but I’m not good at it in return (I’m self conscience that I sound corny)….part of getting to know a SO is understanding what they like and don’t like…it might not be dirty talk in general they don’t like but the particular subject, had a gf once that got off talking about forced sex etc and that was a total turn off
I just can’t take it seriously. Pretty much always sounds like a campy porno.
Flirting throughout the day is cool though.
1. It’s really inconsistent with the partner’s personality. I understand the “lady in the streets/freak in the sheets” duality, but if that freak is a complete 180 from the woman I know, it either comes off as fake or crazy.
2. Getting “too dirty”. My wife has a good dirty talk game that I like, but it isn’t like she’s quoting WAP lyrics to me.
3. It’s not the right situation. There are all different types of sex, and not all of them are good for spitting dirty talk. Lazy Sunday morning sex? No. After a night of drinking and dancing? Hells yea. Hotel rooms? Absolutely. Mid-week romp after the kids are in bed? Maybe a little.
Most dirty talk is just stuff that’d never come out of my mouth. Besides a lot of dirty talk is just the guy insulting the girl. To me it’s just fundamentally cringe.
I’ve kinda never seen sex as dirty.
Well, I like it. But not like in some porn, where it’s just fake (like fake moaning, omg that’s totally shitty), but when it comes in the heat of the moment, between lovers making love out of passion…. I like it.
When its ridiculous.
“You like that Pussy? Whose pussy is that? You gonna make that pussy yours? ”
“You gonna make me your queen? Who’s my king, baby? yeah, make that pussy yours!”
The only girl I’ve ever ghosted after sex. Jesus fuck what a train wreck that night was.
It would probably make me laugh, it’s just corny!
U need to discuss kinks before starting this. If a girl not into it and ur new it takes practice to know what to say or how.
Dirty talk just makes me and the wife laugh. So we avoid it.
Because the majority of the words being used are really actually quite derogatory and meant to be offensive instead of endearments of love.
I don’t know exactly what this means, but whenever people have tried to talk at least teasingly with me, I always get the vibes that it’s some sort of prank. I’m inherently distrustful of it because that sort of thing is ridiculously rare. It makes me feel uncomfortable to feel like I might be a punchline to something.
I find it weird and distracting. Fucking is extremely physical and talking just pulls me out of that, into a different frame of mind.
Also, it’s not sincere, so why do it? I know that’s not how the people I have sex with thibk or speak, so what’s going on?
If it goes too far and becomes inauthentic. My partner and I do a bit of dirty talk when we’re getting up to mischief. It’d be too much if I began to sound like Rocco siffredi.
For me, I don’t like it because I’m weird about reciprocating it. I get awkward about dirty talk, setting, etc. I’ve never been good at it or enjoyed it because I overthink it.