How important is it to you for your partner to spend the night or vice versa when in a relationship?

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1. I would not be down for a partner who wouldnt want to spend the night together.

2. I could do with ‘not always’, I like it to stay as special as possible, but never?? not for me

3. Very important. If they don’t want to spend the night with me AT ALL then I can’t see us ever living together.

4. Essential. I enjoy sleeping next to someone, and I enjoy spending longer periods of time just coexisting. It’s also just practical in many cases.

5. My favorite moments with my partner are lazy mornings in bed. So it’s important

6. Very important. I’m all about maximum cuddle time

7. It’s vitally important to me. If someone wouldn’t spend the night ever, we’d be incompatible.

8. Very important. Ultimately I aim for relationships where we live together, and spending the night is an important stepping stone towards that.

   If you arent into spending the night at a partner’s, you might need to raise that early with dates so you can look for someone for whom it is not a dealbreaker.

9. I would say this really depends on the type of relationship you’re seeking. If your end goal is cohabitation and marriage, then yes, as many of these fine Redditors said, it’s kind of an important step.
   But if you’re more looking for a long term partner but still want to maintain separation and privacy, and said partner is looking for the same, then I suppose it could work.

   But never sleeping in the same bed, would definitely be an issue for me.

10. Very important

11. It’s important to me. I think it gives you a good idea of how you would function living together, and plus I just like cuddling and sharing a bed lol

12. I understand the desire to have time/space to yourself; it’s important to me too. But IMO sleepovers are a significant part of intimacy and I would have a hard time feeling fully safe and appreciated in a relationship that did not include them at all.

13. When I was with my ex it was important to me because it was the norm for us. We would watch tv or hang out with his family really late and I loved being a part of it.
    But after him… I don’t think I’ll really want to sleep over with a partner unless if I’m engaged or married lmao. I have a kid now. But even without her, I think next time I’d be more cautious. He was a jerk and I let other things influence my decision to stay with him for as long as I did.

14. It’s very important. It doesn’t have to be every single time we get together (sometimes one of you has something to do the next day and it’s easier to leave from your own place), but eventually I want to be spending the night together more often than not.

15. If they don’t make the effort to stay with me and im always the one going over to their house to spend the night, that is a bad sign for me (obviously if they have kids or pets or something this doesn’t apply).

    I really love sleeping with my SO and I am compatible with someone who feels the same

16. It’s not a relationship if you’re not spending the night together most nights.

17. I like spending the night together. I usually sleep better if there’s someone else with me than I do if I’m sleeping alone

18. VERY important for me, since we live two and a half hours apart. Those sleepovers are our time to catch up and unwind from college life and cuddle 🙂

19. I mean why wouldn’t your partner spend the night?
    I think it would be extremely weird if he doesn’t.