My coworker reached out to me to get to know me last week. He has never been in a relationship. I purely thought it was just a friend thing when we hung out the first time. Then I noticed subtle flirting through texts. Considering he was a coworker, I needed to address the situation before it led to anything that could cause issues for us at work. We hang around the same friends at work. Later I started noticing that I developed a small crush on him. Not a huge one by any means. I was interested and attracted to him, but I didn’t have feelings for him, because I can’t have feelings for someone I barely just met.
He is currently overwhelmed now. Said his roommate said that he should go for it with me (hence why he was flirting), because his roommate thought I was interested. However, he didn’t know if he saw me romantically. Yesterday he told me that he doesn’t see me in that way and did not appreciate me dropping my thoughts onto him like that. Because I told him that I was interested and attracted to him. He told me things could have turned out differently if I didn’t say it too early
I really enjoy talking to him but barely know him. How do I address this situation going forward? I don’t have a huge crush on him but I am also not closed minded about the situation as well
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Wait, so he initiated it, then tells you you’re wrong for telling him how you feel?
It sounds like the guy hasn’t experienced a lot – especially in this department and with so many people in his head with different opinions and advice, he’s having a hard to process what to do.
I’d say let him take the time to figure out what his next move is, and if he continues the subtle – or just out of right flirting, let him know either he likes you or he doesn’t. Because though he’s figuring it out, doesn’t make it fair to you.
Ew. Let some other woman be his teacher or whatever he needs.
He seems very immature for 24.