My husband of nearly 6 years wants out of our marriage. He claims he “tried” but that were just not good together. When things are bothering him in our marriage, he doesn’t verbalize it to me. I think everything is alright & then suddenly he decides he’s had enough & he’s out. He doesn’t think it can change, but I don’t think he ever gave it a fair chance. How can I convince him to try marriage counseling before calling it quits? I don’t believe in giving up so easily, I just wish he would have communicated his feelings so that we could have fixed this before it was too late in his eyes. Seems really unfair to me.
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Marriage counseling wont save this either, the issue is that someone in his life voided his voice and so he is afraid to speak up, most likely his mother. When he got his voice taken away he struggles to communicate with women, I bet he can say anything with the guys but with you or his mom he is on egg shells and is a yes ma’am kind of guy. He needs to learn his worth and that its okay to upset you and tell you know. His voice has power even at a small level. When he bottles things up and explodes like this its because he hasn’t been addressing the issues for a long time and so pop goes the weasel and you are hit from your blindside going what’s going on. He needs therapy to learn to trust himself, find his values in himself, stand up for his feelings, and be mad.
Then again I maybe wrong but I am assuming everything off a little of nothing.
If I am right tho you are going to have to let him stand up and not be one of his abusers in his past and give him the space to speak up and you listen.
AGAIN ASSUMING!!!!!!