It’s not that my (F20) partner (M20) is bad at it [oral sex] by any means. But the whole aspect of oral sex from my partner really grosses me out. It’s mainly the saliva aspect of the whole thing. When my partner starts to go down on me everything is good, but as soon as I remember/realize that there is saliva all down there I get distracted and grossed out and I can’t enjoy myself anymore. Because of this I never ask my partner to go down on me, and this has made them think they they are bad at it, but that isn’t the case. When I’ve tried to explain they don’t quite understand and it’s something I feel ashamed of. I think I have some other sensory issues that could explain this and I’ve started to work through them with my therapist.
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A girl I went to school with felt similarly. She just felt grossed out by oral. Probably by the mixing of spit with her vaginal secretions.
If you WANT to enjoy oral then you can definitely continue trying to work through your sensory issues and apply it to this scenario.
But there is nothing wrong with having a particular sexual preference. I don’t necessarily see this as something you need to “fix”. It’s okay to not like something.
I’ve never been fond of it. Doesn’t gross me out, per se, just would rather not.
I used to never enjoy it because it did nothing for me. Then I met two people who showed me all the others were doing it wrong.
It somehow feels wrong to me. In the 9 years I’ve been with my husband, I think he’s gone down on me twice, and that was very early in our relationship. I don’t enjoy it, probably because I’m extremely submissive, so it’s too much pleasure for me. My pleasure is bringing him pleasure!
I used to think I felt this way, but it turns out my ex husband just has some really fucked up entitled behavior around sex that turned me off. I have throughly enjoyed it with everyone after him.
My wife finds it distasteful. Her genitals kind of gross her out. We only do it a few times a year.
I’m not the biggest fan of it! I like the idea of it a lot and I love the intimacy and sexy factor. But I can’t cum from it at all. I take easily 30+ minutes to finish and that’s with me doing a specific finger thing. It’s too much to ask him to go at it for hours if I don’t even think I can cum from it, haha. I get enjoyment in other ways.
Some women do… others feel my tongue is sandpaper..