Simultaneous pleasure as a lesbian couple

Hello everyone,

My girlfriend and I (both female) have been together for 1,5 years and are looking for ways to expierence sexual pleasure and ideally also an orgasm at the same time. Currently we take turns bringing each other to orgasm with hands and mouth. However, my girlfriend recently expressed that she would like us to have fun at the same time and not take turns. Anyone has any recommendations besides 69ing (we both find it hard to concentrate on our own pleasure when giving oral), mutual masturbation (already tried, not exactly what we had in mind) and strap-ons? For some time we sometimes had sex in what’s basically missionary sex: Me lying on top of her and grinding her hand while my hip stimulated her clit. It was nice but quite exhausting for me and not super stimulating for her.

Simultaneous pleasure is very important for her because when I am taking care of her after I had my orgasm she tends to feel like I am only doing it for her and she gets into her own head about it. Also I get very sensitive afterwards and don’t like being touched that much which she would very much like to do. When she cums first it’s less of an issue but she still feels like the center of attention which is making her uncomfortable. We are already talking about this very openly, but she just needs some time to get used to being pleasured and just enjoying it without getting into her own head about it.

Thanks in advance!