Boyfriend wants to get into bum play, I am pretty small & well my bum is tight 😂 I’ve got a butt plug to train my bum but as soon as he put it in it hurt and I made him take it out & honestly my bum felt weird for days. I’ve also tried using a dildo but it hurts too much even with lube. I am close to giving up but would love to be able to make him happy once in a while ?? Any tips would be much appreciated
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Kinda on right track already with the plug but if it is not for u then don’t do it! He needs to be respectful of ur likes n don’t likes. Take it very slow if u really wanna try n wash very well. Key thing is slow n patience. Use lot of lube. Kinda like working out u not gonna go from 5lb weights to 50lb weights in a hr or day. Slide the plug or dildo in till u can tolerate it then leave it there till tolerate lot more then slide out then back in. U will find will get more n more in eventually.
There are training sets of plugs that will help you stretch/get used to larger objects. Use them in order while playing until you can comfortably take one bigger than your partner. Go slow, use lots of lube, and stop before it hurts. You can injure yourself pretty bad if your rush into things.
Good luck, be safe, and it’s always ok to say no.
I think for good butt play you need to do just that…play. Lube, spit; fingers, tongues; you need to relax and just let it feel good before going in deep.
Some alcohol always helps
Since the anus is not self-lubricating like the vagina, always use plenty of lubrication. The anus and rectum are fragile. Lubrication helps prevent tearing and soreness and generally makes anal play more enjoyable. I have here a[guide on safe butt plug use](https://ddzmd.com/blogs/news/how-to-try-a-butt-plug-safely) that I hope will help you.
From wifey:
Take a dump and relax. Smoke a lil weed to help the nerves anduse tons of lube.
Three Finger Rule:
1. Have him start with lots of rimming
2. He gently inserts one finger with lots of lube
3. Massage for a few minutes, pulling gently to the sides to help relax the sphincters
2. Then gently try two
3. Then try three
When he can get three in comfortably and pleasurably, THEN you’re ready for the dick.
This prep phase should take at least 30 minutes. When you eventually do anal your hole should be so relaxed it should be “hungry” for his dick.
Wearing a plug before the session can help too
Good luck!