My problem last night with a girl (I’m a loser)

Hi. I’m 25 years old, from Argentina. Last night I had a problem, and I want to ask you what you think. It is not a serious problem, but it is something that is spinning in my head and I cannot forget it, so I want to learn from this mistake to improve in the future.

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Last night I went to a birthday of a friend of mine that I haven’t seen for months. He organized a party with alcohol and music. When I arrived, I saw our entire group, reunited once again after so long. In that, I saw the girls that were there and it turns out that there was a girl who I met last year. She lives in another city since she is studying law, but she came here for a holiday, and by the way, she appeared at the birthday.

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This was so. I went, I greeted her, we talked for a while, we danced, we had a beer. My friends praised me and shouted my name, as if celebrating, since they saw that I was together with her. At one point, I went outside the house to smoke a cigarette, and then a friend of mine came to tell me that she was asking about me, that she was having a great time with me. Obviously, hearing that, my ego went up right away. I took it easy and told my friend that I would finish my cigarette and go back to the house to continue the night with her.

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I go back into the house. I ask a friend where that girl was. What he told me was a major comedown for me. She was with another boy. That boy had also come from another city. He had a great car, a new Ford Focus to be exact. That boy has money, including family from another country who are rich. I only went on my motorcycle, which is my first recently bought motorcycle, but you can’t compare one thing with the other. So it was. I saw her and him leaving the house and getting into his car.

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I decided to continue the night drinking and dancing. Despite the emotional downturn, I knew how to keep up the good vibes with everyone. At the end of the night, I saw them get out of the car. After a while, the party ended. She was standing outside the house. I, in an attempt to look good with her, went and greeted her before leaving. She greeted me with all the good vibes, but I feel like I missed the opportunity. I felt that I failed again, that once I did things wrong and history repeats itself over and over again. I feel like a complete loser. What’s more, I came home, a little drunk, and I stayed a long time listening to “Loser” by 3 Doors Down, “What’s My Age Again” by Blink-182 and “Be Yourself” by Audioslave.

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I never had a girlfriend. I’m still a virgin. As a teenager I made some mistakes, like dropping out of school, smoking marijuana every day, and incessant problems with my family. I recovered from everything, I got over all that, but I still feel like there’s something I need to fix in my life. Recently, I started trying to talk to girls to see if something interesting could happen, which is going relatively well for me, since I have a good vibe with several girls in my city, but I feel that I am a bit slow and do not take advantage of the opportunities.

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What should I do? Should I keep trying? I clarify that I go out to bars and clubs every weekend, that’s why I say that I know many girls from here, and I want to start trying my luck, to see if I finally get it.