So I’ve always been the type of person who will give more attention, show more affection, and all-around love a person more than they seemingly love me. I just got out of a relationship, and it was a really bad ending. He became verbally abusive, broke into my house, it was just a completely different person than the man I had met. I just wanna find someone who is going to care and love me the way I love them. I’ve tried dating apps, but a lot of people are either looking for one night stands or a friend with benefits type situation, and I’m just not into that. I can’t be intimate with someone without developing feelings, and I don’t want to be intimate with someone when there’s no emotional connection. I’m not sure where to go, and I just want to find someone who is right for me. I am 20 years old, and I’m a female. I’m about 5’6, athletic with a curvy build, with blonde hair and green eyes. I’m currently in college, and work quite a bit. I don’t know if there is a place on this app where I can find someone, but it’s like dating apps are just not the way for me.
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Why not just find a nice guy in college? Thats a million times better than using a dating app. From your description im sure you must get a good amount of male attention
Good Luck
Maybe the cash app on ur bio may have sumn to do w the kind of guys u attract
I feel this post.. i am a 30 year old male.😴
Good luck
Well well well, looks like we finally meet. Our interaction shall be LEGENDARY!!
You’re not alone in wanting something real and to be loved in the same manner you give; but you won’t find it instantly, you will have more crappy dates than successful ones. It took me 4 years on apps, cold approach, and deleting online presence, to find someone who was right for me. Dating is not a “one and done” type of approach, you will meet shitty people and some OK people, eventually, you’ll be luckily enough to find someone you think can be a good partner. For me, it was quite literally the “when you stop looking for love you find it”. I was on bumble and came across someone’s profile, the pics were ok but the bio had some thought out description in it so I took a chance and swiped on them, we matched and had a date. The date itself wasn’t a magical sparks flying experience, it wasn’t bad but it was alright. I decided the guy was nice and I was on the fence about seeing him again but I took a chance and did. We’ve been together 3 years now and are planning to get a house and look at engagement rings. I was convinced I wouldn’t find anyone who was nice, respectful, and could love me in the way I wanted and I was wrong; my partner loves me in ways I never considered before or thought I would like (he’s an acts of service type of love language but I was convinced I needed words but honestly I like his more). Apps can be a headache. They can just plain suck ass! But if you really want to be loved, you need to be ok with being alone and enjoy your Own company because if you don’t like yourself enough to be ok alone at times, you’re never going to be fulfilled in a relationship. It’s going to take time; maybe get off apps for awhile and do the cold approach. Maybe join a different club to meet more people. Maybe go to that concert you wanted to attend but are scared to go. Just love how you want and you might meet someone you wouldn’t have ever thought twice about. My brother was miserable and heart broken about an ex the night he might his now gf, he simply went to get a beer from the bar and thought “fick it I should talk to people tonight” and just happen to start a conversation with a girl waiting on her drink and BOOM they’re together now. Don’t be scared to start conversations yourself or give the “average dude” a smile.
Fix yourself mentally(therapy recommended), find your issues, analyze how your last relationship went. Look at what type of men gravitate towards you and adjust the environment you find them or be more aware of how they act before finding your next potential s.o.