I’m sure this topic has been asked a lot, but from what I’ve experienced one has to hang out a lot with someone before leaving the stranger zone, this is easily done with males as the hobbies are alike (gaming sports), I currently have a few female friends but they are all from situations that we were forced together (like school projects or tutor), in which we were able to bond.
Do I need to invest myself in more hobbies?? Are there ways that I’m unaware of to making female friends except spending a lot of time together? Am I just too shy???????????????????
Thanks!
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I would answer your question, but I need you to answer my question first.
Take a deep look into your emotions, and tell me what is your true motivation for making female friends?
Stop puttimg girls on a pedestal. Go out and Genuinely connect with them in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests, goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what people say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.