I live with my parent and their SO because I work in the same city and want free rent. Their SO is also loaded and has a nice place in a very nice part of the city. It’s very pricey out here.
I don’t like their partner for many reasons. For example, today, I went on a walk to meet new friends and sprained my ankle and got a splinter. I was in a lot of pain and really worried.
When I got home, I cried because I was hurting a lot. They tried to hug me and took me to the doctor, who cared for my ankle and removed the splinter. It was incredibly awkward because I don’t even cry in front of my parents, let alone strangers.
I then had to work on some stuff for work. I was really stressed because I was in pain and couldn’t focus well. She brought me my favorite food and tried to stroke my hair and reassure me while encouraging me to take tomorrow off.
All of this may seem “nice” and all but it honestly just makes me cringe. I asked my parent to tell her to back off and I was told that I was cold and unappreciative.
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**tl;dr**: I need help telling someone to back off
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If you do not want to be touched, speak up about that. Other than that, she sounds like a decent person doing decent person things. So, you ca say, “I know you are trying to be nice, but please do not be physically affectionate with me. It makes me uncomfortable.”
Sounds like she’s just being nice. Also letting you live in her home is a gracious thing to do. Totally fair to tell her that you’re “not a hugger” if you want, but you’re just going to have to get over the “cringe” you feel when people are nice to you.