So me and my partner are both sexually satisfied with each other, we experiment, we do new things, its never the same, were both into things like bondage (gags, restraints, blindfolds, rough etc). I personally (male) really enjoy anal as im sure alot of people if both genders do, however my partner wants to do it and loves the idea of it, however is apprehensive due to the pain/discomfort involved, and it sounds arrogant but i am not “small”, i am passionate about sex and like to do things safely and properly, she wants to do it and wants to enjoy it but my question is, is there any way i can make it enjoyable/reduce the discomfort for her? Obviously theres the blatant lube, and foreplay etc, but what else would make it pleasurable for her? I know its not 100% guaranteed, but any females have any tips?
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Tons and tons of foreplay and my lady loves it when I’m stimulating her clit during the act
A couple of things that come to mind:
* Use a lot of lube. Reapply it often.
* Have her explore her anus by herself at her own pace with a finger or a small toy. First only on the outside; then when she is comfortable on the inside.
* Don’t stick anything up her butt that does not have a flared base or is attached to something. It’s easy for things to get sucked up and get lost in there.
* Have her practice relaxing when inserting something in her anus. When she notices her muscles clenching, she should wait until they relax again. She should not continue before that.
* Neither one of you should do anything that hurts.
* Don’t use anything that numbs pain because she could seriously get hurt if she ignores pain.
* Have her slowly increase the size of whatever she is inserting until she can comfortably insert your penis.
* When first trying out anal intercourse, the receiving partner should be in control of the speed and depth of the insertion.
* Not everybody likes something going in and out of their anus. Some people enjoy having something inserted without moving it (e.g., a butt plug), others like it to vibrate or wiggle a little, others only enjoy stimulation on the outside, and others don’t like anal play at all.
I personally need a lot of foreplay, lube, and preferably some sort of clit stimulation.
Since the anus is not self-lubricating like the vagina, always use plenty of lubrication. The anus and rectum are fragile. Lubrication helps prevent tearing and soreness and generally makes anal play more enjoyable. I have here [aguide on safe butt plug use](https://ddzmd.com/blogs/news/how-to-try-a-butt-plug-safely) that I hope will help you.