So I was chatting with them. They already bullied my friend f21 with f24 being the ring leader. She cites that my friend can’t do her job when her job is just being a receptionist.
So I put a target on my back by saying f24 was dramatic when asked about that that they.
Those two f20 and m20 keep giggling and glancing at each other on they phones. Not only that they stood around during my break when f20 was supposed to stay in the front desk. They kept saying some people don’t know how to work and cause a lot of work for f24. I try not to say anything the first time around as I would often yell at my bullies in high school. (I’m talking about swearing and everything)
Luckily the manager said I could leave at 1:30pm.
Soo I was wondering if I could talk to them stop bothering me and f24 wanted to work three days so my friend f21 gave her free day. And I’m dying to say the words if you aren’t bullying me let me see the things you texted each other at 1:00pm. I’m telling the school (we go to a city college of new york) if you keep on harassing me about my friend or intimidating me. I don’t care what your problem is but I want to keep those professional instead of passive aggressive. Just say you have a problem with stop talking about me and we’re good for the next year. If you want to continue talking about me I’ll walk up to and record you. And if you don’t stop talking about my friend I’ll record every conversation we have. If you touch me I’ll call the police on you. And if you like to bully me again I’ll like to see you after work if you really want a problem with me. And if you assign me gross patients on purpose like the feet person you talked about I’m not doing it. It’ll be your fault for me walking out.
I was thinking of sending the m20 an email. Then screenshoting it to show the boss and my school. As he pushed my shoulder really hard reaching for paper towels..
I know I sound unfriendly but I don’t tolerate this treatment because I have high blood pressure and anxiety. I already got bullied last month and not paid at all. And my health was significantly impacted by the extreme stress .
I think they see as meek cuz I present as a cisgender female asian american. I was wondering if they would make fun of me because of my weight and bisexuality just to be the legendary ahole coworkers.
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Can’t you take this to the manager?
Now I’m not familiar with employment law outside of my own country’s, but if you can’t reasonably hash it out with your coworkers, you need to schedule a meeting with your manager. If they don’t take you seriously or pick the bullies’ side, talk to their manager or even HR, because HR knows that a toxic work environment may cost them a lot of money and valuable employees. If all else fails, apply for a different job elsewhere. Respect yourself and don’t wait too long before reporting this behavior, else you may develop health issues and it may grow from a common workplace conflict into a legal conflict.
I think it’s amazing ur standing up to them. I hope things work out for u once u confront them again or talk to the manager. Is there a HR department to file a harassment complaint to?
You honestly need to just take it to HR or the manager and document everything. Unprofessional and unhealthy work environment. Ask to make a formal complaint and cite toxic and unhealthy/unsafe working conditions.
It feels like you’re investing too much in what these ‘bullies’ think. If they say “someone” did this that or the other, well, that’s undefined. Don’t assume it’s you or anyone else. (Even if they know they’re referring to you. So what? They’re not calling you out directly.) If you feel you want to respond, do it the same way. “Well SOMEONE needs to take a chill pill.” Smile.
If they’re talking about you to each other, again, so what? That means you’re taking up space in their head rent-free.
Re the touching — if that gets aggressive it should be reported. If it could legit be called an ‘accidental bump’ then don’t overreact. Just say something like “Oh, hey, no flirting at WORK!” or something that implies they like you.
I think it would drive them crazy if you interpreted any of their actions as flirting, or that they really really liked you.
Learn to wink and smile.
Getting you all upset is the reaction they WANT. Go the opposite direction.