My boyfriend (19M) and I (19F) of a year were talking last night and the conversation was long and stupid, as long with what led to the “argument”. he said if i was to ever be in a Tyler, the creator video he would use a “kendall jenner line”. I had no idea what he meant by that so i told him to explain. he wouldn’t so i tried looking it up. he saw how i wasn’t finding it so he showed me a video of tyler saying “ Kendall ain’t got no ass she’s just shaking bones” and then sat and waited for my reaction.
i know he was just joking, but it really hurt my feelings. he’s very blunt and jokes around a lot. but i’ve told him when it comes at my expense i never find it that funny. i know im extremely flat but he’s the last person i want reminding me of that. After he showed me i felt my chest swell up so i just left for the bathroom and cried. im on my period so i feel like that could also be why it hurt so bad.
When i got back he asked if i was mad at him. i told him how it just really hurt my feelings and how i couldn’t understand how he thought that was okay to say. he just said how he was sorry but it didn’t make me feel any better about it, i ended up just going to bed.
Am i just overreacting? i feel so hurt over this.
tl;dr My boyfriend made a joke about me being flat and it hurt my feelings.
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I don’t have a clue what that “joke” even means but if your boyfriend makes “jokes” at your expense, even after you’ve told him how it makes you feel, then you need a new boyfriend. Or just be single.
1. He’s an arse.
2. I’d be happy to be compared with Kendall Jenner, she is gorgeous.
3. Itty bitty titty committee for the win. Yum.
4. Not overreacting.
5. That “joke” was not funny. If it even means anything.
6. Did I mention that he’s an arse?
Demand an apology and/or dump some sense into him.
I understand it can hurt your feelings when your boyfriend makes insensitive remarks.
Maybe this is a good opportunity to reframe the issue. Instead of reducing your reaction because “you’re menstrual”, maybe ask what gives anyone the right to judge someone’s body like that? Why does anyone need to pick ant someone’s appearance just to sell something or get views? Who left them judge and jury?
There’s nothing wrong with your body or Kendall Jenners body. People get to have preferences but that doesn’t make yours less worthy of respect. And when your bf tries to wiggle out of his idiot remarks by saying “it’s just a joke” remind him of how much of a joke it would feel like if you started judging his anatomy. His jokes aren’t funny.
Don’t fate people who make you feel bad.
I wonder if he would think it is funny if you eluded to him having a small penis.
Not that you should stoop to his level, but for some perspective to think about. I find people who make jokes at the expense of others usually don’t take jokes at the expense of them as funny
NTA, sounds like he was just being mean.
And he is the only joke in this story.