I didn’t have a father figure to tell me how to do it. The result is a dude with incredibly shitty social skills. Everyone i know in my circle has a girlfriend like it’s nothing. I know im not bad looking. Im no hunk either, but i know im not the worst looking. I’ve had a couple hookups that all started with the woman hitting on me first. But outiside of luck, can’t for the life of me engage an actual conversation or have a meaningful relationship with them. Can’t make them laugh. It makes me come off as pretty boring and miserable. I’ve longed for a relationship since i’ve only ever had one, in middle school. Which was years and years ago. At this point i really just want someone to talk to. But i can’t make it happen. At all. Nothing. Nada. It’s not even just with women though. In general im just pretty fing boring to be around. I have very little to talk about. And zero jokes to crack. All my friends can be counted with one hand.
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Same , was just at a party saw my friend talking to girls and I could not
My father only taught me how to respect women, not pick them up. I have a friend that had the same problem, where he would get super quiet when women come around. Luckily for him there’s social media or texts. He could say whatever he wanted over text. It’s pretty common tho I had troubles at a young age but the need to get my little rocks off is what pushed me.
!remindme 1 day
I tell this to everyone who has this problem…… hire a dating coach. Stop wasting time feeling sorry for yourself. Just do it
Stop putting girls on a pedestal. Go out and Genuinely connect with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests, goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what people say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.